On my ministry training we went through the experience of writing a funeral for a peer... which of course meant ours too was written by a peer. It was a strange thing to consult on my own funeral and required some level of acceptance of death. It brought up a lot for me... not least that as a society we've made death the enemy. I engaged my whole family in the process and we had lots of conversations about various aspects of my death and funeral, from how I wanted the time o

I recently had a chat with someone I'd not seen for a couple of years. I found out her husband had died the year before. She thought I knew... everyone seemed to... I didn't. We talked a little about what happened... how quick from diagnosis to death... how hard its been, especially with lockdown.... what support she has in place. She asked about my ministry and I found myself telling her about havening and its uses in trauma clearing. I could see she was skeptical... she s